Dating advice books
If you keep everything light, you will never develop emotional intimacy with each other.
Some of this advice can be quite helpful, but much of it is mistaken and based on personal experiences and opinions, rather than actual research about relationships.
Maybe you're very emotional and find the perspective of someone who is highly rational to be eye-opening.
However, research on "fatal attractions" suggests that these sorts of opposite qualities may initially attract us, but ultimately end up being sources of friction. What do short-term and long-term relationships look like? Intimacy as an interpersonal process: The importance of self-disclosure, partner disclosure, and perceived partner responsiveness in interpersonal exchanges.
There are times when someone with a quality that is very much the opposite of ourselves may fascinate us.
Maybe you're very cautious and conservative and are excited by someone who is spontaneous and unconventional.