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Try a local sporting event or street festival: "It takes some of the pressure off when you meet someone in a place where she's doing something fun and being herself," Sherman says.TAKE ACTION Scan the crowd and select multiple potential candidates. (And for more ways to jumpstart your love life and land your dream girl, discover What Every Woman Wants.) STEP 1: Eliminate loser moves A bit of sleuthing can unlock the secrets behind your struggles. Dating should be a roller coaster of excitement, not a depressing slog. "You need to find out what you really want and what's holding you back," says psychologist Paulette Sherman, Ph. "Otherwise, if you keep floating in these clouds of uncertainty, women won't be able to see what you have to offer." So read on to shake up your routine, put the wind back in your sails, and start winning some hearts.D., an evolutionary psychologist at the University of New Mexico. Rejection may sting, but that's a primal feeling you can overcome."We evolved in small groups where you knew everybody and rarely met strangers," Miller says. ) STEP 3: Be open to surprises Clinging to what you think you want can blind you to the perfect woman—especially since you may not actually know what you want.
D., an evolutionary psychologist at the State University of New York at New Paltz."Men form an idea of what they want in a woman and narrow their criteria too much," says Christie Hart-man, Ph. Instant chemistry can happen, but it won't always be that way, she says.TAKE ACTION Hartman's advice: If you're on the fence about a woman, have at least one more date before moving on.While you're at it, ask his wife or girlfriend to do the same.TAKE ACTION Once you've heard an honest evaluation, start with your biggest quirk, Schwartz suggests.